boots: f21 via threadflip; jeggings: wet seal; tee: old navy; flannel: wal mart boy's section 5 years ago
I read a lot from women with daughters who talk about body image and confidence and how their daughters are watching them, so they need to love themselves more. I always thought, "Well that's nice, I'll remember that for when I have a daughter," but I'm noticing more and more that Joony copies me. I think a lot about what he's observing in me and how his little, sharp-as-a-tack brain is processing it all. I've always assumed that I was lucky since David is a stand-up guy, so Joony can follow his example, and BOOM! perfect, we're done here. I learn more and more every day that that's just not true, though. He's watching me just as much as he's watching Dave, and the things I do are certainly impacting him.
Maybe his ideas about what it means to be a man will come from David's example, but he's learning how to treat others--women in particular--from the ways I allow myself to be treated. I'm not talking about being a rude, confrontational you-know-what. I'm talking about standing up for myself when I don't want to do something, or when I'm too busy to say yes, or I'm being treated with less kindness than I deserve.
Anyways, that's been on my mind lately as I've tried (once again) to gather the gumption to be a more fearless, courageous version of myself. It's a process.